{"id":1471,"date":"2017-07-06T07:16:07","date_gmt":"2017-07-06T12:16:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/designyoursuccess.com\/?p=1471"},"modified":"2017-07-12T20:57:50","modified_gmt":"2017-07-13T01:57:50","slug":"7-forbidden-conversations-for-women","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/staging-ucs.com\/tina\/7-forbidden-conversations-for-women\/","title":{"rendered":"7 Forbidden Conversations for Women"},"content":{"rendered":"

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What are\u00a0Forbidden Conversations for Women?<\/strong>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

A Forbidden Conversation is one that you\u00a0want to have, but you’re afraid to express.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

It’s one that’s been churning in your gut<\/strong>, but you\u00a0continue to suppress.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

It’s the result of years of burying your feelings<\/strong> so that you\u00a0can “play nice”<\/strong> and not “stir stuff up”<\/strong>.<\/span><\/p>\n

It happens when the topics are close to your heart<\/strong> – so personal, so important to your well-being, so necessary for you\u00a0to flourish<\/strong> – that the risk of having a conversation that doesn’t go well is far too great.\u00a0<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

So you\u00a0don’t.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

You\u00a0believe there will be a “right time”<\/strong> to bring this up.<\/span><\/p>\n

A time when others may be more receptive to your ideas or your needs.<\/span><\/p>\n

But the time is never right.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Days turn into weeks, weeks turn into months, and months turn into years.<\/span><\/p>\n

You\u00a0wake up one day at the end of your rope<\/strong>. You\u00a0don’t quite know what’s wrong<\/strong>, but you’re really irritated and it won’t go away.<\/span><\/p>\n

You\u00a0know something is wrong – you’re not really happy, but you\u00a0don’t quite understand why.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

You’re too busy “being busy”<\/strong> to take the time to drill down into what is really going on inside.<\/span><\/p>\n

[Tweet “Don’t be too busy being busy that you neglect what your heart is telling you.”]<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

So, you\u00a0bury our feelings, you\u00a0suppress what your true needs are, you\u00a0act like it’s no big deal.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

You\u00a0wind up mad at yourself, frustrated at others, and feeling like nothing will ever change<\/strong> to help you\u00a0get what you\u00a0truly want.<\/span><\/p>\n

[Tweet “You keep your Forbidden Conversation in a dark underground vault until that dark place becomes a prison for your innermost thoughts.”]<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

And you wind up not\u00a0feeling safe at all.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

NOW WHAT?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

I’m here to begin to shine the light on these issues<\/strong> so you\u00a0can follow the beam of light out of the underground vault<\/strong> and bring the issues into the light of day.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Are you with me?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Let me say, this is not for the faint of heart<\/strong>. Issues that remain buried\u00a0for a long period of time can be ha<\/strong>rder to bring to the surface.<\/span><\/p>\n

But it’s worth it. I promise you.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

HOW DO I KNOW?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

I say this from experience.<\/strong> I had a super successful corporate career and felt guilty that I wasn’t happy.<\/strong> \u00a0I KNEW there were other women who would be grateful to have what I had, so I buried my discontent<\/strong>. I vented occasionally, but was so afraid that my negative talk would “get back to” the wrong people and would have an impact on my career.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

I had a “black or white” switch to my emotions – they were either positive or negative<\/strong> – there was no “gray” area<\/strong>. How short-sighted that proved to be!\u00a0If my feelings\u00a0were positive, they were spoken, BUT if they were negative, they were buried<\/strong> – all with the intent of dealing with them at a later date.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

If any of this resonates with you, read on!<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

HERE IS A SAMPLE OF 7 FORBIDDEN CONVERSATIONS FOR WOMEN:<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

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  1. THE FORBIDDEN CONVERSATION<\/strong>:<\/strong> When I look at how little time I have for me, I wonder\u00a0how the hell I got\u00a0so involved with things that really don\u2019t matter?<\/span>\n