{"id":1649,"date":"2017-08-12T18:16:47","date_gmt":"2017-08-12T23:16:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/designyoursuccess.com\/?p=1649"},"modified":"2017-08-28T07:39:08","modified_gmt":"2017-08-28T12:39:08","slug":"forbidden-conversations-for-your-ears-only","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/staging-ucs.com\/tina\/forbidden-conversations-for-your-ears-only\/","title":{"rendered":"Forbidden Conversations: For Your Ears Only"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/designyoursuccess.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/freedom-1330003_1920-1024x682.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"1024\" height=\"682\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-1627\" srcset=\"https:\/\/staging-ucs.com\/tina\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/freedom-1330003_1920-1024x682.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/staging-ucs.com\/tina\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/freedom-1330003_1920-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/staging-ucs.com\/tina\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/freedom-1330003_1920-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/staging-ucs.com\/tina\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/freedom-1330003_1920-1080x719.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/staging-ucs.com\/tina\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/freedom-1330003_1920.jpg 1920w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Ready to set yourself free?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Can you imagine a space where you can lift your head, pause the noise and the stress, and put the obligations on the back burner &#8211; just long enough for you to wake up to what you truly desire. I want you to feel that for a moment. Isn&#8217;t it a fabulous feeling?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Now, imagine for a moment that you can frame this feeling to repeat it again and again, whenever you need to bolster your self-confidence and gain momentum to move forward. This is your day!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">If you could remove all of these distractions, what do you think you might be able to do?<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Focus on you for a change<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Remove the mask and show the real you<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Experience joy at another level in your life<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What&#8217;s the key?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">It&#8217;s actually quite simple &#8211; it&#8217;s turning the Forbidden Conversations topic inward.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">It&#8217;s learning to have those conversations with yourself that you ignore, hoping that things will change.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">It&#8217;s mustering up the courage and conviction to know that unless you deal with your issues first, you cannot thrive.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">So, how do you do that?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">You have to get painfully honest and raw with yourself. You have to stop burying your feelings and sit with them, even when it&#8217;s uncomfortable.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">And finally, you have to determine what Forbidden Conversations need to happen to unlock your future. These are the conversations that are holding you back &#8211; the ones that keep you stuck.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">For me, it was the Forbidden Conversation that started like this:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">[Tweet &#8220;&#8221;Why am I afraid to be vulnerable and stop caring about what other people think?&#8221;&#8221;]<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What a loaded question, but let me break it down for you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I had this recurring feeling that I was at the edge of a cliff whenever I felt I was going to try something new and scary &#8211; something that might expose me, but at the same time could break everything open. It was unrelenting. It haunted me for years. I still have bouts of this feeling from time to time.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I have learned to recognize that it is my response immediately before something that will open up avenues for greater personal growth for me. I&#8217;ve learned to sit with the discomfort, the doubt, the second-guessing, but also to move through it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">It has meant EVERYTHING to me in terms of helping me tackle the next scary thing that has great rewards for me.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I want you to have that same feeling, that same confidence, that same experience.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What was the revelation that finally broke everything open? This is the kind of revelation that caused me to sit up in bed in the middle of the night. Here is what I can tell you&#8230;.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Acknowledge the stories you tell yourself and realize the power they have over you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I want you to sit with that a moment. This is the most powerful aha moment I could have had and I want you to experience the same.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">It&#8217;s not about what &#8220;others do to you&#8221;; it&#8217;s not about your obligations, it\u2019s all about not being able to make time for what was important.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">It is all about your choices. What you choose to believe about yourself and what you think you are capable of.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">And guess what? This turns out to be what you are most afraid of!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">When this happened to me, I realized I was afraid of my own power and I had never figured that out before.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Your Forbidden Conversation is the one you need to have with yourself the most \u2013 the one that will help you unleash your power within and your potential to do greater things and make a bigger difference.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What causes some people to make a small ripple in the water and another to have one that just continues and continues?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What causes some people to hit a simple note and others to break a glass?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">The difference comes from inside them. It comes from their core, their being, Their essence and the difference they want to make.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What if I told you that the success you desire is within the things that scare you the most? I know that sounds shocking.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">If I would have challenged the stories I told myself head on, I would not have played the victim, made my issues about everyone else instead of taking full responsibility for my own stories.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">It gets comfortable to complain and accept things. It\u2019s convenient!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">So, how do you begin? \u00a0You can start by asking yourself these Courageous Questions &#8211; hoping to unlock the Forbidden Conversation you need to have with yourself:<\/span><\/p>\n<h4><span style=\"color: #000000;\">COURAGEOUS CONVERSATIONS TO HELP GET YOU STARTED ON THIS PATH:<\/span><\/h4>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What have you always wanted to do?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">When do you feel like you are in the \u201czone\u201d?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What type of things make you feel fulfilled?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What excuses are you making for status quo?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">How much is your inaction costing you?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What are you waiting for?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">How do you want to feel?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What forbidden conversations have you identified to help clear the way for you?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">How do you clear the way so you can move forward in an inspired way?<\/span><\/p>\n<h4><span style=\"color: #000000;\">COURAGEOUS POSITIONS TO ALLOW YOU TO TAKE INSPIRED ACTION:<\/span><\/h4>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Make a list of choices that reflect the real you<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Don\u2019t worry if they are hard or easy<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Make no judgement about others\u2019 feelings<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Decide you will make the time<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Explore the stories you are telling yourself<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Commit to a new experience<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Let go of self-judgement<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What will be important for you is to seek the type of change that will make you FEEL balanced &#8211; emotionally, spiritually, intellectually.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What if you could achieve alignment in those areas?\u00a0 I would venture to guess you would start to feel more balanced in your life, don\u2019t you think?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Some of our struggles come from that tension between what we want and where we are. When we achieve the alignment we need, the energy that was previously used for that tension is freed up to be used more constructively.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Use these tips to clear the deck for your own power and then you can begin to interact with others who stand in the way of your getting exactly what you want.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">If any of this is resonating with you, meaningful personal change is probably in your future.<strong> The best way to know if you are ready for your own Forbidden Conversations is to know where you are today.<\/strong> I&#8217;ve designed a quiz to help you do just that. It will take you only a few minutes, but you&#8217;ll receive some important insights about what elements of your life are going great and where you have some opportunities. <strong>Click on the link below to take my free quiz!<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span><a class=\"pm-snzp-btn pm-snzp-btn-bigrounded pm-snzp-btn-medium pm-snzp-gray\" href=\"http:\/\/www.yourideallifequiz.com\"><i class=\"pm-snazzy-heart-empty\"><\/i>Am I Ready for my own Forbidden Conversations?<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/designyoursuccess.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/01\/HEADSHOT-WITH-BOOK-COVER.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"195\" height=\"195\" class=\"wp-image-1361 alignleft\" srcset=\"https:\/\/staging-ucs.com\/tina\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/01\/HEADSHOT-WITH-BOOK-COVER.jpg 504w, https:\/\/staging-ucs.com\/tina\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/01\/HEADSHOT-WITH-BOOK-COVER-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/staging-ucs.com\/tina\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/01\/HEADSHOT-WITH-BOOK-COVER-300x300.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 195px) 100vw, 195px\" \/><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I&#8217;m Tina Meilleur and a Leadership and Business Mentor, author and speaker. I am also the founder of <strong>Design Your Success<\/strong> and the <strong>Academy for Business Success<\/strong>. My mission is helping high achievers match their desires, skills and experiences with success on their terms.\u00a0My \u201cNext Chapter\u201d program and CRAVE\u2122 process are systematic approaches for making simple \u201ctweaks\u201d or orchestrating a total reinvention. I am the author of <em>Your Next Chapter: Five Steps to Creating the Life of Your Dreams<\/em> to help\u00a0others build anything they want into their life.\u00a0I have a CPA designation in the State of Louisiana and received my MBA from Tulane University in their Executive MBA program. I&#8217;m a highly sought-after mentor, coach, facilitator, and speaker. You can reach out to me at <strong>Tina@DesignYourSuccess.com.\u00a0<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Ready to set yourself free? Can you imagine a space where you can lift your head, pause the noise and the stress, and put the obligations on the back burner &#8211; just long enough for you to wake up to what you truly desire. I want you to feel that for a moment. 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