{"id":172,"date":"2015-07-14T09:45:26","date_gmt":"2015-07-14T14:45:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/designyoursuccess.com\/?p=172"},"modified":"2017-10-16T10:20:20","modified_gmt":"2017-10-16T15:20:20","slug":"button-pushing-101","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/staging-ucs.com\/tina\/button-pushing-101\/","title":{"rendered":"Button Pushing 101"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"Are you aware of how you allow others to push your buttons?\u00a0<\/h3>\n

Yes, that\u2019s right!\u00a0 I just said \u201chow you ALLOW others to push your buttons\u2026\u2026.\u201d\u00a0We never think of it this way \u2013 we think others are out to get us and know how to push those buttons that get us all worked up.\u00a0\u00a0AND when we react,\u00a0that reaction knocks us off base, makes us forget our point or question our position.<\/p>\n

Did you ever consider the thought that those who push your buttons intentionally are actually\u00a0accomplishing their goal of rattling you and making you question yourself?\u00a0<\/strong>Did you mean to give your power away in that moment?\u00a0I bet your answer is a big\u00a0\u201cNO\u201d!\u00a0So,\u00a0can you think of a way you can maintain control and self confidence in those situations? \u00a0I suspect you are reading this because you feel you can\u2019t retain your power when your buttons get pushed, or at least not consistently, right?<\/p>\n

Think about this situation for a moment\u2026.<\/p>\n

A stand-up comedian is on stage and an obnoxious heckler starts messing with him.\u00a0 The heckler shouts some things from the audience that works him into a frenzy.\u00a0 He loses his cool, abandons his routine, and begins a rant on the heckler that is angry and confrontational.\u00a0 An audience member records his rant on a cell phone and posts it online.\u00a0BAM!\u00a0 Who got the result that they wanted?<\/p>\n

How do I apply this in regular life?<\/h4>\n

Well, I used a very extreme example, but you get the point.\u00a0 When someone tries to push your buttons, that is exactly it\u2026.they are\u00a0TRYING\u00a0to get you to respond in the way they want. \u00a0<\/p>\n

It is important to remember that when someone tries to push your buttons, there could be any number of reasons \u2013\u00a0maybe the other person\u2026\u2026<\/p>\n

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  1. is insecure around you or with the topic.<\/li>\n
  2. lacks confidence.<\/li>\n
  3. wants attention.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    <\/h4>\n

    But there are ways you can respond and retain your power:<\/h4>\n

    The first step is to\u00a0RECOGNIZE<\/strong>\u00a0what is happening.<\/p>\n

    The second step is to\u00a0TAKE A DEEP BREATH<\/strong>\u00a0before responding.<\/p>\n

    The third step is to\u00a0DIFFUSE THE COMMENTS SO YOU RETAIN YOUR OWN POWER<\/strong>!<\/p>\n

    You are probably thinking, the first two are easy \u2013 peasy, but\u00a0how can I keep the presence of mind to be successful in Step 3, right?\u00a0The next time someone tries to push your buttons, try phrases like these (or your version of them):<\/p>\n

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    1. \u201cI hear your concerns and I\u2019ll consider them, however\u201d\u2026..(and return to your original point).<\/li>\n
    2. \u201cI\u2019m not quite sure what your comments have to do with what I am trying to say (or get done), so maybe we can talk later.\u201d<\/li>\n
    3. \u201cI understand you are looking for more information regarding my point of view, so I\u2019d be happy to discuss and\/or provide some additional information (and then follow-up \u2013 this works well in a work situation when someone has a valid concern but you don\u2019t want to get derailed in a group situation).\u201d<\/li>\n
    4. I\u2019m sorry, are we talking about you or me right now?\u201d (this is especially effective when someone tries to turn something around on you).<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      You can use these tactics in your personal or business life \u2013 just change them around to fit the situation.<\/p>\n

      Just Remember:<\/h4>\n

      [Tweet “You own your power. Don’t give it away unless you have clear intention to do so.”]<\/h4>\n

       <\/p>\n

      Are you ready to take back your power?<\/p>\nTake the Quiz >><\/a>\n

       <\/p>\n

      \"\"I’m Tina Meilleur and a Leadership and Business Mentor, author and speaker. I am also the facilitator of a Women’s CEO group. You can learn more about my story\u00a0here<\/a>. I am also the founder of Design Your Success<\/strong> and the Academy for Business Success<\/strong>. My mission is helping high achievers match their desires, skills and experiences with success on their terms.\u00a0My \u201cIt’s My Turn\u201d program and CRAVE\u2122 process are systematic approaches for making simple \u201ctweaks\u201d or orchestrating a total reinvention. I am the author of Your Next Chapter: Five Steps to Creating the Life of Your Dreams<\/em> to help\u00a0others build anything they want into their life.\u00a0I have a CPA designation in the State of Louisiana and received my MBA from Tulane University in their Executive MBA program. I’m a highly sought-after mentor, life coach, female CEO facilitator, business strategist\/coach, and speaker. You can reach out to me at Tina@DesignYourSuccess.com.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

      Are you aware of how you allow others to push your buttons?\u00a0 Yes, that\u2019s right!\u00a0 I just said \u201chow you ALLOW others to push your buttons\u2026\u2026.\u201d\u00a0We never think of it this way \u2013 we think others are out to get us and know how to push those buttons that get us all worked up.\u00a0\u00a0AND when […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_mi_skip_tracking":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_active":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_note":"","_exactmetrics_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,5,7,6,12,14,13,4],"tags":[33,36,35,40,39,34,38,37,30,26],"class_list":["post-172","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-business-insights","category-career-advice","category-confidence","category-decision-making","category-energize-your-career","category-leadership","category-propel-your-business","category-self-esteem","tag-confidence","tag-leadership","tag-managing-stress","tag-reacting-to-aggressive-people","tag-reacting-to-negative-people","tag-self-esteem","tag-stepping-into-your-power","tag-stepping-up","tag-stress-management","tag-workplace-engagement"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/staging-ucs.com\/tina\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/172","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/staging-ucs.com\/tina\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/staging-ucs.com\/tina\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/staging-ucs.com\/tina\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/staging-ucs.com\/tina\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=172"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/staging-ucs.com\/tina\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/172\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/staging-ucs.com\/tina\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=172"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/staging-ucs.com\/tina\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=172"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/staging-ucs.com\/tina\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=172"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}