{"id":3036,"date":"2022-11-01T11:00:33","date_gmt":"2022-11-01T16:00:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/staging-ucs.com\/tina\/?p=3036"},"modified":"2022-11-01T08:19:22","modified_gmt":"2022-11-01T13:19:22","slug":"refuse-to-be-defined-by-others","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/staging-ucs.com\/tina\/refuse-to-be-defined-by-others\/","title":{"rendered":"Refuse to be Defined by Others"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">When you think about how you define yourself as a female leader, have you given any thought to how you have been defined by others? You may be surprised once you dig into this topic. It can often reveal the origin for some of the things you believe about yourself.<\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\"><b class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">How were you socialized as you were growing up? Were you:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">\n<li>Taught to be\u00a0<i class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">nice<\/i>?<\/li>\n<li>Reminded to be\u00a0<i class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">polite<\/i>?<\/li>\n<li>Often pressed to be\u00a0<i class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">lady-like<\/i>?<\/li>\n<li>Told to\u00a0<i class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">be quiet<\/i>\u00a0or to\u00a0<i class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">wait to speak<\/i>?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">If you were socialized in this way as a child, you can find it hard to let these behaviors go as an adult \u2013 even when you should.<u><\/u><u><\/u><\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">Now, don\u2019t get me wrong \u2013 I believe in being nice and polite, but not if consistently doing so compromises your individuality or your ability to participate authentically in conversations and interactions.<u><\/u><u><\/u><\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">And what happens if you abandon these behaviors? Do you get feedback that you are too emotional, aggressive, or the dreaded \u201cb\u201d word?\u00a0<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">What if you could:<\/h3>\n<ul class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">\n<li><i class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">Control the narrative<\/i>\u00a0about you to a greater degree?<\/li>\n<li>Decide how you want to\u00a0<i class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">present yourself<\/i>\u00a0\u2013 in a way that matches the situation and what you have to offer?<\/li>\n<li><i class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">Stop hiding<\/i>\u00a0behind how you were taught to\u00a0<i class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">behave<\/i>, and instead\u00a0<i class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">show up more powerfully<\/i>\u00a0to highlight your own experience and point of view?<\/li>\n<li>Leave any interaction feeling that you were\u00a0<i class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">heard and respected<\/i>?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">This is truly possible,\u00a0<b class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">but it takes you to decide<\/b>\u00a0what you are willing to accept and what\u00a0<span class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">actions you are willing to take.\u00a0<\/span><u><\/u><u><\/u><\/p>\n<p class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\"><span class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">If this is a topic that grabbed your attention AND you have a pressing issue that I can help you process, let\u2019s hop on a short, targeted call to work on it. I promise you will leave with a path forward that will provide you with a boost of confidence.<\/span><span class=\"bard-text-block style-scope\">\u00a0You can<\/span>\u00a0book it\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/callwithtina.com\/\">here<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When you think about how you define yourself as a female leader, have you given any thought to how you have been defined by others? You may be surprised once you dig into this topic. It can often reveal the origin for some of the things you believe about yourself. 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